{"product_id":"it-s-not-you-it-s-me-a-20-week-journey-into-accountability-and-emotional-honesty","title":"It’s Not You, It’s Me: A 20-Week Journey Into Accountability and Emotional Honesty","description":"AWARD-WINNING BOOK • KIRKUS STARRED REVIEW • 2026 NEXT GENERATION INDIE BOOK AWARDS 2X FINALIST\n“It’s Not You, It’s Me: 20 Weeks at The Kitchen Table” has earned triple recognition for its powerful exploration of accountability, emotional honesty, and personal growth:\nKIRKUS STARRED REVIEW — One of the most prestigious distinctions in publishing, awarded to only a small percentage of independently published books.\n2026 NEXT GENERATION INDIE BOOK AWARDS FINALIST — Relationships (Non-Fiction)\n2026 NEXT GENERATION INDIE BOOK AWARDS FINALIST — African American (Non-Fiction)\n\nWhat if the problem isn’t who you’re choosing—but what you’re avoiding?\nAt a kitchen table where the coffee stays warm and the truth doesn’t, four people agree to do something most of us never do: stop blaming everyone else and start telling the truth about themselves.\nIt’s Not You, It’s Me is an award-winning book about relationships, accountability, and emotional honesty—told through authentic conversations, lived experience, and insight you don’t get from theory alone.\nOver twenty weeks, guided by a wise elder who refuses to let anyone hide behind charm or excuses, the group confronts the patterns that keep repeating in their romantic relationships, family dynamics, and personal lives.\nThis book explores:\n• Why we stay in familiar pain instead of choosing healthy love\n• How family wounds quietly shape adult relationships\n• The difference between emotional availability and emotional performance\n• What accountability actually looks like—without shame or blame\n• How honesty can heal romantic, family, and chosen relationships\nAt the heart of the story is a Marine veteran navigating long-distance fatherhood, learning that accountability isn’t just about who you love—it’s about who’s watching you grow. Alongside him, a woman reckons with betrayal that forces her to confront her deepest patterns, and a lifelong friend realizes that avoidance can be just as destructive as anger.\nKirkus Reviews praised the book as:\n“A dramatic and involving story of tough people undergoing difficult self-assessments.”\nThis is not a book that tells you what to do.\nIt’s a book that shows you what happens when people finally stop lying to themselves.\nIf you’ve ever said “it’s not me”—and wondered, quietly, if it might be—this book is for you.\nPerfect for readers interested in:\n• Self-help books for relationships\n• Personal growth and emotional healing\n• Accountability in romantic and family relationships\n• Emotional intelligence and self-reflection\n• Book club discussions and reflective reading\nPull up a chair.\nThe table is set.\n\nThe truth is waiting.\u003cbr\u003eASIN: B0GLQX49G4\u003cbr\u003eVSKU: BVV.B0GLQX49G4.G\u003cbr\u003eCondition: Good\u003cbr\u003eAuthor\/Artist:Botts, Robert M.\u003cbr\u003eBinding: Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eNote:\u003c\/b\u003e Any images shown are stock photographs and product may differ from what is shown.  \u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eCondition Notes\u003c\/b\u003e: The item shows wear from consistent use, but it remains in good condition and works perfectly. All pages and cover are intact  including the dust cover, if applicable . Spine may show signs of wear. Pages may include limited notes and highlighting. May NOT include discs, access code or other supplemental materials.  \u003cbr\u003e","brand":"Blue Vase Books","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":43366635601981,"sku":"BVV.B0GLQX49G4.G","price":16.54,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.bluevasebooks.com\/products\/it-s-not-you-it-s-me-a-20-week-journey-into-accountability-and-emotional-honesty","provider":"Blue Vase Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}