Description
ACOA Meets Avoidant is a short relationship memoir about what happens when unhealed childhood wounds quietly shape adult love.
As an adult child of an alcoholic, Tammy Evans spent decades believing jealousy was a personal flaw—something to hide, control, or be ashamed of. Across relationships with both men and women, the same painful pattern followed her: anxious attachment, emotional distance, and a constant fear of being unchosen. What she didn’t understand then was that jealousy wasn’t the problem—it was a signal.
Through honest reflection, lived experience, and years of personal work, Evans traces how early loss, shame, and self-abandonment wired her nervous system for survival rather than safety. She explores the anxious-avoidant dynamic from the inside—how it feels in the body, how it erodes self-worth, and how easily love becomes something we chase at the cost of ourselves.
This memoir is not a how-to guide or a diagnostic manual. It is a quiet, compassionate account of learning to stop abandoning oneself, breaking generational patterns, and choosing differently—especially when it’s uncomfortable.
Written for readers who: grew up in emotionally unpredictable homes identify as adult children of alcoholics (ACOA) struggle with jealousy, insecurity, or anxious attachment feel drawn to emotionally unavailable partners want understanding rather than quick fixes
ACOA Meets Avoidant offers recognition without judgment and honesty without blame. It reminds readers that jealousy is not a character flaw, shame is not permanent, and healing begins when we learn how to stay with ourselves.
ASIN: B0GCQ96BD2
VSKU: BVV.B0GCQ96BD2.A
Condition: Acceptable
Author/Artist:Evans, Tammy
Binding: Paperback
Note: Any images shown are stock photographs and product may differ from what is shown.
Condition Notes: The item is very worn but is perfectly usable. Signs of wear can include aesthetic issues such as scratches, dents, worn and creased covers, folded page corners and minor liquid stains. All pages and the cover are intact, but the dust cover may be missing. Pages may include moderate to heavy amount of notes and highlighting, but the text is not obscured or unreadable. Page edges may have foxing age related spots and browning . May NOT include discs, access code or other supplemental materials.
ASIN: B0GCQ96BD2
VSKU: BVV.B0GCQ96BD2.A
Condition: Acceptable
Author/Artist:Evans, Tammy
Binding: Paperback
Note: Any images shown are stock photographs and product may differ from what is shown.
Condition Notes: The item is very worn but is perfectly usable. Signs of wear can include aesthetic issues such as scratches, dents, worn and creased covers, folded page corners and minor liquid stains. All pages and the cover are intact, but the dust cover may be missing. Pages may include moderate to heavy amount of notes and highlighting, but the text is not obscured or unreadable. Page edges may have foxing age related spots and browning . May NOT include discs, access code or other supplemental materials.