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AWARD-WINNING BOOK • KIRKUS STAR / “GET IT” REVIEW • 2026 IPPY BRONZE MEDALIST • 2026 NEXT GENERATION INDIE BOOK AWARDS 2X FINALIST
It’s Not You, It’s Me: 20 Weeks at The Kitchen Table has earned four major industry recognitions for its powerful exploration of accountability, emotional honesty, relationships, and personal growth:
KIRKUS STAR / “GET IT” REVIEW — Kirkus Reviews praised the book as “a dramatic and involving story of tough people undergoing difficult self-assessments.”
2026 IPPY AWARDS BRONZE MEDALIST — Sexuality/Relationships
2026 NEXT GENERATION INDIE BOOK AWARDS FINALIST — Relationships (Non-Fiction)
2026 NEXT GENERATION INDIE BOOK AWARDS FINALIST — African American (Non-Fiction)
What if the problem isn’t who you’re choosing—but what you’re avoiding?
At a kitchen table where the coffee stays warm and the truth doesn’t, four people agree to do something most of us never do: stop blaming everyone else and start telling the truth about themselves.
It’s Not You, It’s Me is an award-winning book about relationships, accountability, and emotional honesty—told through authentic conversations, lived experience, and insight you don’t get from theory alone.
Over twenty weeks, guided by a wise elder who refuses to let anyone hide behind charm or excuses, the group confronts the patterns that keep repeating in their romantic relationships, family dynamics, and personal lives.
This book explores:
• Why we stay in familiar pain instead of choosing healthy love
• How family wounds quietly shape adult relationships
• The difference between emotional availability and emotional performance
• What accountability actually looks like—without shame or blame
• How honesty can heal romantic, family, and chosen relationships
At the heart of the story is a Marine veteran navigating long-distance fatherhood, learning that accountability isn’t just about who you love—it’s about who’s watching you grow. Alongside him, a woman reckons with betrayal that forces her to confront her deepest patterns, and a lifelong friend realizes that avoidance can be just as destructive as anger.
This is not a book that tells you what to do.
It’s a book that shows you what happens when people finally stop lying to themselves.
If you’ve ever said “it’s not me”—and wondered, quietly, if it might be—this book is for you.
Perfect for readers interested in:
• Self-help books for relationships
• Personal growth and emotional healing
• Accountability in romantic and family relationships
• Emotional intelligence and self-reflection
• Book club discussions and reflective reading
Pull up a chair.
The table is set.
The truth is waiting.
ASIN: B0GLQX49G4
VSKU: BVV.B0GLQX49G4.G
Condition: Good
Author/Artist:Botts, Robert M.
Binding: Paperback
Note: Any images shown are stock photographs and product may differ from what is shown.
Condition Notes: The item shows wear from consistent use, but it remains in good condition and works perfectly. All pages and cover are intact including the dust cover, if applicable . Spine may show signs of wear. Pages may include limited notes and highlighting. May NOT include discs, access code or other supplemental materials.
ASIN: B0GLQX49G4
VSKU: BVV.B0GLQX49G4.G
Condition: Good
Author/Artist:Botts, Robert M.
Binding: Paperback
Note: Any images shown are stock photographs and product may differ from what is shown.
Condition Notes: The item shows wear from consistent use, but it remains in good condition and works perfectly. All pages and cover are intact including the dust cover, if applicable . Spine may show signs of wear. Pages may include limited notes and highlighting. May NOT include discs, access code or other supplemental materials.