Staying: The Cost of Silence

What happens when children learn early which truths are welcome—and which ones are not? STAYING: The Cost of Silence is a powerful, intimate examination of how silence forms, how performance becomes protection, and how well-meaning adults unknowingly teach children to disappear in order to belong. Through lived experience and sharp observation, Shane Thomas traces the quiet patterns that follow us from childhood into adulthood—how achievement can become armor, how honesty gets postponed in the name of stability, and how the absence of safety, not the absence of words, is what silences us most. This is not a book about parenting techniques or quick fixes. It’s a book about presence. About what happens after a child finally speaks. About how adults often leave emotionally at the exact moment they’re needed most. About why “calm” is often rewarded over truth—and the hidden cost of that choice. Written for parents, educators, caregivers, and anyone who works with or loves children, STAYING offers a deeply human lens on behavior, vulnerability, and connection—without blame, diagnosis, or prescriptions. At its core, this book asks a simple but unsettling question: Can we stay—without fixing, minimizing, or disappearing—when the truth gets uncomfortable? Because when adults learn to stay, silence loses its power. And when silence loses its power, lives change direction.
ASIN: B0GHP1NSN1
VSKU: BVV.B0GHP1NSN1.G
Condition: Good
Author/Artist:Thomas, Shane
Binding: Paperback
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Condition Notes: The item shows wear from consistent use, but it remains in good condition and works perfectly. All pages and cover are intact including the dust cover, if applicable . Spine may show signs of wear. Pages may include limited notes and highlighting. May NOT include discs, access code or other supplemental materials.