Playbook for Navigating an Unwanted Divorce - 4760

Here’s a fact for you. There’s no guidebook for getting through life’s worst events. Nobody has a guide for surviving divorce. When your marriage blows up in your face, you’ll end up seeking a lot of advice. If you’re like I was, you’ll head out onto the Internet and do a lot of searching for advice on how to handle the situation. And since there’s seemingly millions of bloggers, lawyers, and "thought leaders" offering tons of high level, non-specific advice, you’ll encounter a lot of poorly written blog posts that offer lightweight punch lists of suggestions for what to do after the initial split. There’s just a lack of positive, helpful resources written in straightforward language for how to deal with the emotional turmoil you’ll experience in a divorce. This book attempts to solve that problem, using the commonly accepted seven stages of dealing with grief that accompany the death of a loved one. It’s a good comparison because grieving a divorce is a lot like mourning the death of someone you loved, except in this situation, the person in question is still around, walking around and thriving, like some kind of reanimated remembrance of your marriage armed with the power to say “I don’t love you anymore.” Shock and Denial: Dealing with the 20-ton nuclear bomb has detonated in your life and finding ways to actual accept it. Pain and Guilt: Handling the hurt that comes in waves, washing over you at inconvenient, very public moments as well as the accompanying guilt. Anger and Bargaining: Learning to deal with the wrath, rage, fury and bargaining that are common responses to sudden drastic changes in people's lives. Depression: Working through the experience that makes you feel like you’re living in a deep dark hole, a bombed out crater filled with wreckage of your past life. The Upward Turn: Getting a handle on yourself and starting to make better choices, so a light washes over the darkness in your life. Reconstruction and Working Through: This is the heavy lifting part of the process that involves reframing your challenges, changing your thinking around what stands between you and your goals, and reexamining the demise of your relationship. Acceptance and Hope: Learning to take the divorce for what it actually was from an objective standpoint. You get on with whatever acceptance looks like for you and begin forging a path forward. Life is a series of events, one beginning and ending before giving way to another. Divorce is dramatic, impactful, hurtful, and sad, but it’s also just an event. It’s a thing that happened to you. You experience it, navigate it, and move forward. The hope is that you come out the other side having learned something, because to emerge from the experience having done nothing at all is unthinkable. It does end though, and the story you write going forward is your own.
ASIN: B09XDYB37N
VSKU: BVV.B09XDYB37N.G
Condition: Good
Author/Artist:Blyth, Ian Robert
Binding: Paperback